we were just discussing, hank and I, generosity and love. why? valentine’s day? sure, why not. and we keep coming to the same question – why does love or generosity or kindness confound people. wariness seems to be everyone’s default position. worse than this, we accept as harsh reality hatred and violence. maybe because there is no hidden agenda in hate and violence. what you see is what you get.

as for love. I’m reminded of a lyric – when you say it’s love, what were you thinking of? yes what are you thinking of. probably something different than I am.

what do I know about love? good question – enough to know that i won’t be giving out advice any time soon.

back in those long ago days – the era of high school and university – i had no idea what love was or even if i had the capacity for it. but it was pretty straight forward in terms of what I thought it was. 18, 19, 20 year old male – you fill in the blanks.

now, from the safety and experience of years gone by, i still don't know what love is really. it’s a jumbled and convoluted proposition. is it passion, compassion, laughter, attraction, sex, longing, needing, crying, desire, acceptance, shared values? all of the above. some secret combination.

love is elusive, it’s a shape shifter. and there are different kinds. romantic love and love for humanity. a spiritual love. out of which, comes generosity, kindness, empathy.

maybe that’s why acts of simple generosity are greeted with wariness. with questions. what are you really up to? what do you want from me?

maybe nothing.

that’s just weird. and doesn’t make much sense, if we only measure value in cents. and dollars.

very confusing for some people. i do know that love, of whatever kind, is a rare commodity. sometimes we don't recognize it. or we turn our backs.

that wariness makes me queasy and questioning. when a society is more at ease assuming the worst rather than seeking the best, we all should pause to ask ourselves why. we might not find an answer, but some time thinking about it, about love, can’t hurt.


happy valentine's day.

 





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